Apologies if this veered too much off topic. I’ve been kicking this around for a week or two, and felt the need to add recent events and post.

It’s 5am, I haven’t eaten in 12 hours, had anything substantial to drink in about 8, have been sitting on the toilet for over an hour, and instead of doing something about any of those things I’m editing a comment to fix a typo.

    • Yurgenst@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      12·
      7 months ago

      It was a joke my guy. I didn’t really expect that toilet water would cure depression lol. Also “just figure it out” has to be the worst advice for depression ever. If it was easy to figure out alone then no one would have depression.

    • jjagaimo@lemmy.caEnglish
      10·
      7 months ago

      Why dont you go tell [the] paralyzed to just get up and pick something up off the shelf. Its so easy, isnt it? They just made their mind up to be dead weight and have people take care of them.

      Just because you dont suffer from something or cant physically see it doesnt mean its not real, and just because you are capable of something doesnt mean everyone is, even if they WANT to be capable of it.

      • 474D@lemmy.worldEnglish
        46·
        7 months ago

        I do deal with depression and although it’s a struggle that won’t end, healthy habits such as eating well and staying hydrated do help, which is what the original comment stated just to be ridiculed. Depression may not be our fault, but it is ours to deal with.

          • wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
            33·
            7 months ago

            Buddy, empathy doesn’t mean “allow someone to continue with plainly disordered thinking because it’s what they know”. I’m not the person you’re upset with, but the first step in getting over any problem is to force yourself to take that first step.

            You’re welcome to hate it, to not want to. It will absolutely be hard, often to the point of feeling actually impossible. It is going to suck, potentially forever.

            But you still need to try if you want any hope of getting out of it. Progress is almost imperceptibly slow, but you will make progress if you keep trying.

            Expecting the planets to align and for yourself to suddenly not have this battle to fight with yourself through no action of your own is like expecting to win the lottery when you haven’t even bought a ticket.

            This is the difference between telling someone what they want to hear so they don’t feel worse in the moment, and pointing them towards a solution that might lead to betterness longer term.

            I am formally diagnosed with ADHD, depression, and anxiety. I was informally diagnosed with an autism spectrum “condition” (not sure the term at the moment) by a retired spectrum diagnostician I lived with for a few months. Don’t try to tell me I don’t know what the fuck I’m talking about here. I’ve lived it.