I personally see it as “hyperfocus” when I’m talking about minutes or hours and “fixations” when on the scale of weeks or months. But I have a lot of opinions about semantics for someone who isn’t a professional 😂

And I agree with his point in the video, probably because I first saw it years ago so I’m already biased and it’s also very much the case for me. It’s perseveration. I can’t break away from the task, sometimes even if I’m screaming at myself internally to do so. I hate it and it feels like I’m malfunctioning at the time. Hyperfocus sounds like a good thing, maybe even superhuman, that you can willingly steer, and that’s not the case.

Yeah they really buried some critical information on this one. I get the point of the article about general surveillance but when people feel tricked they get burned out on the issue and trust the media less. They could have made the point they wanted without making it clickbait.

I thought it was just (or mostly) partial pressure of O2 when it comes to hemoglobin? It’s been about 15 years since I was in school so I might remember wrong.

Does that mean that if we took something rusty and put it in an environment without oxygen it would start to release oxygen from the rust?

I agree, and it drives me crazy when people say that about OCD. But I think there’s a gap between the extremes, and if I have the potential to be wrong, I’d rather be wrong by being validating.

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(not arguing, just pondering) Actually now that I think about it, I don’t think it’s the opposite end of the spectrum at all, I think it’s actually the same thing. If you think about it both are coming from not understanding that the disorder is (in my awkward words) the exaggeration of normal human behavior, specifically the exaggeration. Being able to relate to it isn’t enough perspective alone.

Actually sometimes I do, because I have diabetes 😂

That’s… sad for him that his perspective is so small. Many people seem incapable of understanding things like this no matter what you say. Hopefully he doesn’t damage someone with his perspective.

I am not that experienced with EDs but I personally think the most important thing with most maintenance is not that you don’t regress, but that you get back on that damn horse when you fall off. You doing that shows self-awareness and willingness to fail and keep trying to work on yourself, which is true strength. So many people easily fall into a spiral of self-hatred and give up, but no, you’re doing the work, and it’s hard. I have good reason to believe in you too.

I find frequently even people who have the same disability or an adjacent one can say some really ignorant stuff, almost as if their struggles gives them a license to judge others. Relating to others’ struggles is good and validating, but don’t let it turn into a comparison.

Even for myself, I didn’t understand the whole picture of what ptsd can do to you when I was dealing with just anxiety. Now that I’ve experienced it, I understand the fucking sheer terror that is living in hypervigilance mode, it really seems unfathomable if you haven’t been there. And I have no idea if I experience it like others do. Not saying one is worse than the other but they are not just variations of the same thing.

I’m looking forward to the world being a better place when people in general understand it’s best not to try and decide for someone else what their experiences mean to them, and nobody wins when you compare suffering. I hope we make a lot of progress in my lifetime.

I thought it was birds dancing that was for mating. But then again, I do dance for my girlfriend. Not great for mating, but she always laughs so I’ve got that going for me.

That tracks. I suppose it depends on whether I’m doing it to attract a mate or just doing it to feel good about myself.

Well, I guess to be fair, I do a lot of normal human behavior, like pooping and sometimes imagining inanimate objects have feelings. Maybe I just need to lighten up? 😛

Thanks! I agree

That’s a good one I hadn’t thought of.

BTW where can I find out more about dbzer0’s instance? Like purpose/values/location/config (i.e. downvotes). I assume you have an in with someone important to have that username there (kidding 🙃) . I’m not unhappy with where I’m at necessarily but I didn’t do much research when picking, I just wanted to get on a different server that wasn’t censoring things without even an announcement.

Thanks brother/sister/sibling!

(sorry I don’t know your pronouns, I used to wonder if I would ever actually run into that with the way conversations work here but TIL)

I will try not to ban myself by accident.

I really like the way it’s put in the post about the rule, but it’s a lot to ask people to casually read if they’re not part of the comm. I see it as growing pains, so I know once lemmy is past the point of being easier to browse everything than curate your subscriptions and watch for new communities it will improve.

Plus the mods at the ADHD were like hardcore bouncers on steroids when it came to maintaining a healthy community for the intended audience. That’s not a comparison with db0, I know almost nothing about him(?), but I certainly like his self-described FAFO policy about breaking the rule.

Yeah, those I do have some sympathy for because they’re still living life on hard(er) mode but no matter who you are it’s the sheer volume of knee-jerk reactions that’s annoying.

I looked at your profile and caught some of the nuked comments you made in that same thread I came from. I totally agree, it’s really frustrating to see disinformation repeated a bunch of times with many upvotes, show up with an actual informed opinion, and people downvote you like crazy in minutes.

I think it’s because a bunch of people are just looking at the everything feed instead of just their subscribed comms (myself included), because it’s easy to handle right now with lemmy not having an enormous userbase. But these people obviously know where they’re commenting if they’re saying that.

I mean I don’t come into your house and basically tell you you’re just imagining your problems. It’s ableist as shit.

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