Water usage is probably my biggest. Living in a high desert, my wife and MIL see no problem with filling one side of the sink with hot soapy water to wash a few dishes because “that’s just how I’ve always done it”, to watering the grass and plants for hours. All of this makes me mental.
Getting married without a prenup in today’s world is foolish. Ask marriage counselors and they will in general tell you to get a prenup. A prenup is wrote by two people and both have their own attorney. Anyone who refuses to get one or even discuss one is someone you should run from. A prenup details how a divorce AND how a marriage should run.
Also anyone who wants operating system or device level age verification doesn’t understand how bad things will get if we do that. It’s only about mass surveillance and selling of your data. It does nothing to protect kids.
I have heard that before and I think the same as before I started my marriage: I will not start a marriage with planning how it might end. Also half of the assets is fair, ailment is fair. It stings when it happens but it’s fair. I say that as a man with a good income.
I knew the deal when I married my wife. I think part of marrying someone is the fact that ending the marriage is shitty. So you better be careful who you marry.
I mean this. I do truly wish you the best, but the reality is close to 50% of marriages end in divorce. With the exception of forced marriages, all of them started thinking it would last forever. Way too many divorces end with one side getting screwed. “Just be careful of who you marry” is a recipe for failure when taken it context of the above statistics. Many people are trapped in bad marriages and can’t really get a divorce without getting screwed. So that 50% number should really be higher. Every walk of life we plan for the worst and hope for the best, or at least if a person is paying attention they do. Marriage is a huge item. Plan for the worst (prenup) and hope you never need it. Either that or risk winding up as a statistic.
If you don’t get one (and are told to get one) then get screwed and look back realizing had you gotten a prenup things wouldn’t have been as bad…. Well I’ll have a hard time finding sympathy.
Also the half the assets sound fair. Until you realize that it’s possible to lose more then half without a prenup.
I thought the 50% stat didn’t filter out repeat offenders.
You’re correct. First time marriage is at 41% (in the USA, at least).
(US context) The advice I got was that every marriage has a prenup. If the couple doesn’t write it, it’s just the default prenup their state wrote and it’s going to be crap for both people.
That’s exactly correct
I remember a science fiction story where the marriage license has a seven year term and has to be renewed periodically.
That’s an interesting concept
“The Puppet Masters” by Robert A. Heinlein. There’s an acceptable movie version of the book. The marriage scene isn’t in the movie, though.
This sounds like a great idea when I look at all the married people around me.
This idea is also in the beta canon Star Trek novels. If I remember correctly, it was the Vanguard series with Carol Marcus and James Kirk dissolving their marriage.
I can’t comment on the prenups as I have never even considered marriage.
I am not disagreeing with your opinion on device level age verification. I am interested in what you think we should do to protect kids online. There has been a lot of talk about this being the wrong way to do that but very little discussion on what other methods we could do.
Would you be opposed to a “this computer is used by a child” checkbox and just that true/false would be passed to apps?