Thank you, I mostly just wanted to quickly point out the weaknesses of asking such a question here and only here, but I really appreciate your reply. I was not in a position to elaborate at the moment, so I really do appreciate someone else elaborting & providing additional perspectives, and while we may not necessarily see eye to eye, I think you’ve pointed out some differences (in a relatively neutral way) that are important for users to be aware of when they navigate the various instances.

While I’m posting from .world, this was never intended as my “primary” account. My “primary” account was on kbin, and now that I’ve accepted that kbin isn’t coming back, I’ve been wanting to move somewhere else for my main account, but life + ADHD + too many choices has been getting in the way of that, and many other things I need to do. I hate signing up for things, so I’m hoping my next instance will be a good fit for me for a good while.

You might consider crossposting this to similar communities on other instances. .ml has quite the reputation for censorship, so that’s definitely going to shape the responses you get here.

Have you considered talking to your roommates about it? Maybe let them know that you want to make sure you’re not disturbing them and asking them to send you a text or knock on your door if it’s too loud? They might have ideas on how to minimize the sounds and/or agree on “quiet hours”.

Thanks! Just reminded me that I had a relatively simple task to do that would have been weighing on my mind at 2a.

Now the other tasks on my mind are “perpetual tasks” or otherwise aren’t so simple to complete, like finding a new job. So uh, how do I stop stressing about those tasks?

They kinda sorta reversed course on that.

Following a discussion in our team we want to clarify that we are no longer requesting moderators to remove content relating to jury nullification in the context of violent crimes when the crime in question already happened. We will still consider suggestions of jury nullification for crimes that have not (yet) happened as advocation for violence, which is violating our terms of service.

https://lemmy.world/post/22920690

First of all, how is the bite wound doing? Cat bites (and scratches) can transmit some very nasty stuff, and it’s often recommended to see a doctor ASAP. I had a bite a few years ago that resulted in me getting IV antibiotics.

In terms of winning the void over, patience is key. Let the cat lead any future physical interactions. You can offer your finger for it to sniff, and when it decides it trusts you, it will rub its cheeks against your finger. Talk to the cat in a calm voice. Just talk about anything, read to it, etc. Look up “slow blinks” and learn how to read the movements of its tail. If it’s tail is flicking, back off. Jackson Galaxy is a great resource.

Have you been able to check it for a microchip? Have you checked to see if it has a human family that might be looking for it?

Is this one of those times where someone intentionally makes an inaccurate statement (title) in order to increase engagement?

Volunteering is definitely one of my current extracurriculars, but I had a couple of very negative experiences with the organization this past year and am currently taking a break, but probably going to resign soon.

So far, the only other volunteer opportunities I’ve found that excite me just haven’t aligned with my schedule, or are just one off things, but I’m definitely always on the lookout.

Classes is another option I’ve looked into, ranging from the more educational (computer programming or foreign languages) to more fun (dance), but for various reasons, haven’t been able to make any of those work for the past few years.

LMAO, definitely not for me, but maybe a great idea for others here.

Ahh. My thinking was that articles like the one from psypost.org have a tendency to twist things for the sake of clicks, but they can be a nice primer for those of us who arent experts in the field, so I usually try to read the original study also, and was hoping to hear from others based on both sources. I’ll delete the link to the original study while I see if I can get a hold of the full text somehow.

Is the psypost.org link paywalled for others? Or just the link to the original study?

Any suggestions on ways someone might use this theory to better manage their symptoms? How can I make myself feel more busy when life isn’t keeping me busy enough?

I’ve tried asking my manager for more work, but they’ve instead shifted some of my work to other people. I’ve been considering looking for a second job, but I’m afraid that will swing things too far to the other side.

Same here! I’ve repeatedly tried to explain this to my manager, and their response is that I should learn to delegate more. I feel so lucky to have a job that demands so little of me, but it sucks because I end up underperforming and unhappy. Since it’s clear at this point that my manager won’t give me more work, I guess I need to find other ways to make myself feel busy.

Yeah, my experience is that if I have too much free time, I somehow don’t get anything done. I’m much more productive and happy if I have a busy, but manageable to do list. Short periods of “too much” to do are also okay, especially when they have a clear end in sight, but they must be balanced out by a break of some sort.

I hope you’re doing alright now. I know moving can be extremely stressful, and hopefully your recovery time is enjoyable.

I remember once in college that I had a big paper to write, and I decided that I was going to get started on it “early” so that I could finish it early and avoid the deadline stress. I legitimately started it early, but somehow still managed to finish it at the very last minute. I spent my entire weekend in the library, and I don’t think the final product was significantly better than if I had procrastinated on starting. I just spent a lot more time on the research part of it, and didn’t really start putting anything together until the deadline stress kicked in.

Since that experience, I find it even more difficult to convince myself to start things early, since I’m afraid it will just mean spending more time on stressful tasks.

Yeah, I think there’s definitely an ideal balance, and I don’t think consistent 70+ hour weeks is the right balance for anyone. If my work schedule is busy, but near 40 hours/week, burnout is probably not a major worry. Occasional weeks that demand more than 40 hours are manageable as long as they’re balanced out by easy weeks or vacation time.

I’ve been really struggling with my current job because my actual workload is closer to 15-20 hours/week most weeks. I end up having a ton of trouble getting started, and am always late on things. I’ve tried on multiple occasions to tell my manager that I actually need more work, but they instead keep suggesting that I learn to delegate things more.

My employer offered me a modest severance package, and set my last day to be the first working day of the month, meaning my health care benefits are valid for almost a full month after my last day.

Tell me you’re American without telling me you’re American

Close, but not quite. One thing I notice a lot around here (Lemmy/fediverse) that suggests many users are elder millennials or older, is the frequent use of 2 spaces after a period. I don’t really notice as much of that in other online communities.

My oldest is pretty cuddly, but only on his terms, so I’m always excited to curl up on the couch or in bed and enjoy some snuggle time. If I have the energy, I might do some play time with the wand toy or some clicker training with their favorite treats. If I’m feeling more lazy, just tossing treats… They love chasing them!

I think they’ll let you know what they want. I definitely feel you on the urge to go over the top with spoiling them, but what they probably appreciate most is just having you back. I’ve come to realize that most of my efforts to spoil my cats are more about me than they are about the cats.

I feel ya. Currently trying to figure out how to get out of upcoming holiday travels since dragging them along won’t be an option.

I guess I also look forward to the extra affection they give me when I return, and usually try to plan for a “decompression” day (or at least half day) as soon as I return so that I can take full advantage.