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  • Yeah, that might be more accurate. Most of what I was thinking was in terms of MMORPG PvP arenas, or something like Sea of Thieves when you have two ships that get locked in a prolonged battle. Having one really good player going against a group of semi-coordinated average players can be a lot of fun, too! Like everyone ganging up on the really good Smash player (and still losing against them).

    When there is no challenge at all, that’s when it gets dull.




  • You could have written “sorry, watching a movie right now” and then stop responding or reading messages they send you.

    Hell, even if you remove the “sorry” part of the message. At a certain point, you need to take accountability for how you write messages, despite being in a bad place mentally at the moment. Maybe they were frustrating you by continuing to message you while you were busy (and it does sound like they had prior knowledge you were busy with a movie), but it also requires that you were continuing to engage with them despite being frustrating. Nothing was preventing you from simply not responding until the movie was over.




  • Mesophar@lemm.eetoMemes@lemmy.mlWhat's up?
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    If you go in with that attitude, though, are you there to try to convert people to your side. Or are you only there to berate them and make yourself feel better for having done so?

    That doesn’t mean you put up with bad faith engagement. That doesn’t mean you allow them to burden you with the emotional and mental weight of the argument. That they can watch the consequences without fear of it harming their self is exactly why you need to watch your language. They lose nothing staying where they are, you need to convince them to give up resources (mental, emotional, financial) of their own to take up your position.

    So, don’t put up with bullshit, and you don’t have to be nice about it, but you do have to be patient of your goal is to actually convert people over. Not everyone’s role is to convert people, though, some people are only fighters. Just make sure the fighting is directed in the right places.


  • For the second situation, it isnt always that they want to be asked the question. Sometimes they noticed a change in your behavior recently and are checking in on you.

    Example, you’re eating lunch and you love chocolate pudding. You usually eat your chocolate pudding every day without fail. Today, you didn’t eat your chocolate putting and just left it sitting there.

    A: “Hey” B: “Hey” A: “So… what’s up?”

    Regardless, “what’s up” is just a place holder for “how are you”. Sometimes that is just small talk and a way of fulfilling simple social interaction, and sometimes it is a question with genuine interest in knowing what is going on in your life (or asking you first, so they feel comfortable sharing what is going on in their own life).

    I always find it easiest to give a simple and short, but honest, response, and elaborate further if they show interest with follow up questions. Of course, giving them information you are comfortable giving that person.

    A: “What’s up?” B: “Not much, I’m a little tired today. You?”

    or

    A: “What’s up?” B: “Kind of sad, but I don’t want to talk about it.”



  • It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot of stress and anxiety, too, if you’re on a “hair trigger” with your emotions. Some self care and/or therapy may help with some of it, but you sound like you’re on the right track already. Try to be aware of when you feel that way, try to identify why the situation makes you feel that way, ask yourself what you can do in that situation too change anything, and try to view the situation from other perspectives (doesn’t have to be from the perspective of the person making you angry, but can be a stranger viewing the situation from the outside).

    Best of luck to you! And keep in mind that by just wanting to improve yourself in this way, you’re already take a step more than most people!









  • I’m not sure what you’re looking for in a “game like NMS”, but

    • Elite Dangerous
    • X4
    • Outer Worlds
    • Endless Space
    • Homeworld
    • Starfield
    • Star Citizen
    • Everspace

    Or “base”-building

    • Satisfactory
    • Astroneer
    • Terraforming Mars

    Not sure what you’re exactly looking for that NMS doesn’t scratch the itch of, but these are all games myself or friends have played that touch some of the same areas. Though, I understand the pain of “this game is so close to perfect for what I’m looking for, except for this one part that makes it unplayable to me”.