I have both ADHD and Autism for context.

Anyway I recently started noticing that I tend to have dual organizational systems in my apartment. Some things and storage spaces are totally organized to the 10th degree. Other things and storage spaces are totally chaotic and some of my belongings just end up wherever I drop them. It is kind if weird because there is a very clear differences in something like my closet. My main bag and dresser is super organized but but my desk and under my bed is often just a dumping zone. I end up having to clean up a bunch of junk and trash every 2 weeks or so.

I have also noticed that I sometimes will get really impulsive and move things around. Of course this triggers my desire to keep everything the same so I end up moving everything back. It’s like my ADHD jumps in and then the Autism takes back over.

Same thing with me going to social outings. I will suddenly get a desire to go into a bar or group activity but when I get there I get overwhelmed in 5 minutes or less and I end up mostly keeping to myself in the corner. I want to go get wild and have fun but then I get overwhelmed by where I should look. I don’t want to accidentally stare at someone to long so I just look at the floor.

What’s wild that I just realized this more recently

  • MechanicalJester@lemm.ee
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    Similar. I have both. However, not all autism is the same.

    As for the social stuff, your skills are underdeveloped. It’s like watching a toddler run because there are skills others developed at a much younger age. You may always struggle with it, but you can learn how to cope, and you can improve.

    You can learn to watch for non verbal cues, learn when to listen vs talk. You can learn when to stop fact dumping and instead ask questions.

    You aren’t alone. It can get better. I would recommend watching some YouTube videos on communication and social skills.

    Be interested in other people’s journeys and skill sets. Perhaps people will think you’re different, but they will like you.

    Settle on an organization that objectively makes sense for you. Don’t set unreasonable expectations for yourself.

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          7 days ago

          If they say they have a problem I will immediately try to fix it. I am a engineer by heart so I want to come up with solutions. The thing is most people don’t want solutions they just want to vent.

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            Yes. This. Are they looking for understanding or solutioning?

            Typically venting…

            Ask. It saves you both frustration.