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So basically eugenics. Ignoring autonomy has never gone wrong (/s)!

But he purrrsssss :3

Dude is gender neutral in the 2nd person but not in the 3rd person

You’re right that it’s your place to talk about your opinion, but you’re trying to deny them theirs, that’s the problem.

I find “powers” a strange word choice because of its connotation, but if you want to use it, whatever, language is a complex and subjective thing. Other than that, I didn’t see any generalization from the person you’re arguing with, so I don’t understand your response.

I think you might have misinterpreted their line about their giftedness, they said “I’m considered gifted” then explained that they don’t feel they have “powers”. This does not imply that’s the same for everyone considered gifted, so it is not a generalization.

I have some strategies I use for not getting into a situation like this. I try to assume the best from people, but when I think an uncharitable interpretation is likely I’ll ask clarifying questions like “are you saying that all gifted people are only good at IQ tests?”. Sometimes I focus on the wrong details, sometimes the other person says things in a weird way, clarification always helps.

Caveat: this can potentially be dangerous. I used to go outside a lot when I felt bad, but it mostly let me stew in my bad feelings with nothing to permanently distract me from them. Now I always bring headphones to listen to music, because that’s a lot better at distracting me from the bad feelings.

No, I just don’t get much detail. Perhaps a related phenomenon: in dreams I really struggle to run, like I’m running through a viscous fluid. I think I just can’t simulate my senses well.

I can visualize whenever I want, but I have the same fuzziness issue you describe. It’s like quantum mechanics, a detail only resolves when I specifically measure it, and it’s in flux as I interrogate other details. My dreams are also like this, and all my senses are poor and low resolution, yet I don’t notice until I’ve awoken.

If I needed to somewhat accurately visualize something, I’d remember details of it in like a list form and reconstruct an image following that. Usually I don’t have enough details memorized/given and I have to much freedom in the recreation, leading to inaccuracies. At least I’ve known for a while that my “memory” is actually reconstruction and so I can’t trust it.

I can remember 100 digits of pi, but I can’t remember my family’s birthdays/anniversaries/whatever and it takes me a moment to remember my own! A calendar is a necessity for me.

Interestingly, I almost always monologue, even now I’m reading this out as I type! If I skim information faster than I can form words, I notice the monologue gives up, but I also am less likely to remember the information or form connections with it. It’s a strange feeling knowing that I’m almost listening to the language of pure information whenever my monologue stops, although the information is usually fuzzier than I would like.

I believe POSIX mandates grep and a shell that should be able to handle everything this code uses, but sudo is a problem

Wait, there are people who are fine with that?

You sound like a language prescriptivist, you should look into descriptivism.

You seem to completely ignore the social aspect. If I spend my whole life an outcast, a weirdo, struggling with social cues, struggling to make friends, overwhelmed by stimuli, I might start to think I’m broken, or personally responsible for my faults.

Autism explains that well and takes away the blame, as well as being a good summary to others AND a label with which I can find others like me and share/relate to experiences.

Even if I don’t meet the medical definition, I don’t care, because it’s been such a useful lens and community for me learning about myself.

:P

I started HRT recently and it feels life changing.

Depression and gender dysphoria. It’s not very dramatic nor fast-acting, it just ate away at me for a decade until I was sure I wasn’t gonna survive the next few years.

The fear of death doesn’t go away, it just starts to seem like the least terrible option. And it’s one thing when you get those impulses to do it, but it’s even scarier when you feel calm and levelheaded and still feel you should do it.

Your choice is survive or die, and most people are almost hardwired to not even regard death as a choice, so there’s really no autonomy. I suppose you could say my mind is strong, but that’s about as meaningful as saying I have naturally strong muscles: cool, but that’s not something I did or earned, that’s birth luck.

I don’t want to be seen as strong for my struggles. I was only a bit of bad luck from death, would that person have been considered weaker than me now? She’s hardly different from me, so if she’s weak I’m weak. And if you’d say we’re both strong, what’s the point in calling a survivor strong anyway? I’ll take the title “survivor”, but " strong" implies more power than I really had.