Your wife does not decide if you need medicine or not. Doctors do. I don’t know if you should take your meds in secret or right in front of her, you should do whatever you think is best for you in this situation, but you need to be taking your meds.
What helped me convince some people that ADHD is not a made up problem was the pictures on Wikipedia’s ADHD entry (in Polish) showing some difference on PET scans of regular person brain and ADHD brain. Showing people that and saying there’s literally a difference in a brain you can actually see made them think twice
I have a friend who was in similar situation.
Your wife does not decide if you need medicine or not. Doctors do. I don’t know if you should take your meds in secret or right in front of her, you should do whatever you think is best for you in this situation, but you need to be taking your meds.
What helped me convince some people that ADHD is not a made up problem was the pictures on Wikipedia’s ADHD entry (in Polish) showing some difference on PET scans of regular person brain and ADHD brain. Showing people that and saying there’s literally a difference in a brain you can actually see made them think twice