https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=at.cwiesner.android.visualtimer&hl=en-US is a free android version of a TimeTimer that looks to be privacy respecting, and doesn’t have ads, as far as I can tell… (Although I run an android variant that let’s me turn off an app’s access to the internet, so YMMV)

Built in tasks and data view for filtering.

Ping me separately if you want to compare notes…

Yeah, but: (source https://xkcd.com/1319/)

🤣😂🥲

I have separate logins on my machine for work vs home.

I also have my obsidian task manager synced on both machines so when non work stuff pops into my head, I add it to my list to work on after work in my personal task manager and get back to work.

I have a sacred 30mins at the start of the day to drink a coffee, and review my work task list, and plan what I will do today. From there, I ONLY work on what’s on the list, unless my boss rings me and changes the priority (or equivalent person etc).

As for not getting sucked into these things at all: I just avoid anything non work related while working, until I’ve achieved my list of work deliverables for the day, and finish work…

That works for me, until I have some work related YouTube video or equiv… I had a 4hr YT Shorts spiral the other day, was just lucky it started at 430pm!

I’ve since found that the DuckDuckGo browser let’s me watch YT videos without going to YT, so I don’t get the autoplay trap sprung one when the work related video is finished, which has helped a lot.

I’ve been using it on multiple devices for multiple years.

It works for me, and every app in want to use works. I’ve found that when they don’t, it almost always is broken on the stock OS also.

I just went with GrapheneOS on a Pixel… It’s as close to “it just works” as you’re going to get in my opinion on a device that respects your privacy. .

I feel almost 90% aligned to your story…

Was diagnosed formally in my 40s… Described as “super high functioning” by my psychiatrist, but really just felt like I’ve white knuckled the years from age 8…

DM me if you want to chat…

[Edited to add]: 90% of my coping mechanism were self taught and had large similarities to what you describe.

I have burnt out completely twice and the recovery taught me to develop better coping methods.

My recent diagnosis has given me the final piece to better understand (retrospectively) how and why I’ve operated and grown the way I did.

Medication is actively helping me overcome the largest remaining parts as my career has become more senior and exec function failings became more pronounced.

Unsure if that is helpful to you, but I’m also happy to chat more thoroughly in a less open forum if you’re interested or think it might be helpful.

It’s also OK if just knowing you’re not alone was what you were looking for…

smart watch with a “make my phone go bleep!” button…

I have a simple rule now: “in the case, or on my face”.

Sunnies on my face? Clear pair in the case. Clear pair on my face? Sunnies in the case.

Case is in my EDC bag… And DOES NOT EVER LEAVE THAT POCKET…

The ONLY exception is when sleeping, I have a bedside nose holder my clear specs go on.

THIS. Thankyou…

I’ve just had to explain to the 80yo grandmother that you can’t yell at my 19yo son because his anxiety ticks are annoying you.

She went full send on telling him that no woman or friends would ever want to be around him unless he stopped… She got even angrier because she yelled at him to stop, and the ticking got louder and more frequent… (duh…)

The only way I managed to get even a glimpse of consideration out of her was to leverage her pride in being a “baby whisperer” as a grandmother, and explained that yelling at an anxious ND about their ticks is like yelling at a baby to make them stop crying…

Only then did she stop for even a moment and actually have a thought about what was happening…

She still yells at him, but at least now we have a way to puller her back a little, as this description makes her feel terrible enough about it, that she leaves him alone for a bit out of feeling guilty…

there are ways to make it easier; it’s been gamified:

https://github.com/streetcomplete/StreetComplete

Available on FDROID.

When my partner stops to play pokemon go, I complete some Open Street Map info quests…

I’d love it if you could expand on this to help me understand better…

I’ve had meditation suggested to me many times, and I just don’t get it…

It leaves me wondering “What am I missing?”!

Similar to many others on here, I’m terrible at time estimation, so I have to literally track backwards from the time I need to be there with things I need to do along the way, so:

Need to be there at 8am Driving takes 30mins (730) Shower 15mins (715) Tidy up and get my travel drink 20mins (0655) etc.

Then I also usually add 15mins to get lost or find parking. (0640)

Then I know what time to get up etc.

(Then I usually panic that I need more buffer and add another 30mins and get up at 0610!)

Oh… And the calendar thing. If its not in the calendar, it doesn’t happen…

Sure thing… It’s not my playlist, I just found it on Spotify.

https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1WV1FG192LL9MavJpbBXKF

Anything with a fast beat and no lyrics.

I have a Spotify playlist I found called “drum’n’bass no lyrics” that fits the bill.

Also use any of the bonkers releases (favourite is bonkers 14) but they have lyrics… I’ve found that once I’ve listened to them a few times though I don’t notice the lyrics anymore…

I’ve made a career out of my ADHD in a presales engineering role… (And ending up in product management).

I did need to get the social aspects under control (mostly learning to slow down, and to learn when to shut up!), but this was all very manageable if you can take feedback and hyperfocus on putting it in action… 🤪

I liked that I got to work on the 20% of the customers problem that was the “rocket science” bit, and we would sell consulting services to do the bits that were more like “making license plates”…

Also, having a new audience every week meant I got to really practice and hone my presentation and soft skills which are super important.

LOL… Malicious compliance at its best…

My favourite was when my GP gave me a list of 10 docs to call to see who was taking referrals for adult diagnosis.

Yeah, that list sat unopenend (combination of overwhelmed and totally forgot) till 6 months later when I had to see the GP again, I panicked, and I called all 10 in the 30mins before my GP appt and then was late for the GP and almost missed my GP appt…

Fun times…

This needs a government / IEEE / domain registrar policy of some sort. Maybe it should simply be that all expired domains are put into stasis for 10 years.

If you want to buy it and have access to it sooner, then you need to run (and pay for) a program of works to catch and proactively kill all linked accounts, and build a register of embargoed existing email addresses that must be set to bounce.

I knew this was a problem, but wow, had no idea it was this bad…

Because I have a firstname.lastname@popularcloudemail.domain type email, I get SOOO many people signing up for accounts with my email, forgetting that theirs had some number suffix. I get peoples phone bills, pizza receipts, Amazon orders, parking meter e-receipts, Xbox live accounts, Dropbox logins, you name it.

I NEVER thought of what that would look like at a domain level!