A practice that I find helpful is repeating back what I thought I heard. This gives evidence to the other person you are paying attention and provides an opportunity for immediate corrections if I got something wrong.

I also agree with other people of not depending on your brain. Computers are very good at remembering precisely what you tell them. They also offer reminders for variable amounts of time before. I have had Google calendar events with reminders set for 1 week, 1 day, and 1 hour before a single event.

Buy a Steam deck OLED and play Holo Knight.

A Mary Sue is about unearned skill. A person who is just magically good at everything. People don’t like it because in the real world you generally have to work hard, struggle, and sacrifice to achieve significant things. Same reason most people don’t like trust fund babies. They didn’t earn it.

The challenge is that in reality you have to keep making the choice. Nothing changes with one grand proclamation. Maybe it starts there, but it means nothing without backing it up with hundreds of other choices.

I know one personal challenge I am working on is judging myself by my best day. Everyone has variance of capability day to day. Beating myself up because everyday isn’t my best day is silly.

It’s because we are all tired and something usually hurts. The thing that hurts and the reason it hurts changes, but “something hurts” is near constant state of being.

My understanding is that depression and anxiety are not uncommon for people with untreated ADHD. So it might be that your struggles with ADHD are causing depression.

Therapy is probably a good idea regardless. If you spent your life “in the wrong body”, I would imagine it would still leave you with thousands of small mental wounds that add up. Granted, finding the right therapist can be an ordeal.

More information if your interested: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLyqKj7LwU2RulAjHczohbx5OyJQ8TaFM0&si=oOq3345O7yZEU1Hj

Also establishes expectations. Every on the highway knows what the expected speed is. Going 30 in a 65 is way more dangerous than doing 75 when conditions allow.

I’m not on a stimulant beside caffeine. But I have noticed a similar issue. 3 things I do to help:

1. Plan for it. I intentionally plan for my meals to be larger as the day progresses so dinner is the biggest.
2. I give myself “free” things to eat with no guilt. If I want to eat a giant bowl of cooked broccoli, no worries.
3. Don’t buy things you will dopamine crave. If you have junk food at arms reach, you will eat it. I try to stick up on protein bars and fresh fruit.

I would argue that under the right conditions it could negatively impact physical growth. As social creatures, humans can experience a lot of stress from isolation. I think it well understood that intense prolonged stress can have many negative impacts on the body. It could negatively impact physical development in that way.

My Dad was a truck driver and died from bladder cancer. Please don’t hold it when you don’t have to.

It sounds like you are fundamentally trying to embrace healthier habits. I would suggest starting by examining the feeling. Just spend some time thinking about it before acting. Why do I feel motivated to do this? How will I feel while doing it? How will I feel after? Do I gain something from this worth the downsides?

The goal is to make a decision about what you are doing and why instead of just falling into old patterns of behavior with thought.

Yeah. Human memory evolved to keep us alive not happy. Brain assumes anything that stressful must be life threatening and we obviously should remember that so we can avoid it in the future.

I personally find having a rational understanding of the utility of emotions helps me process them.

It’s bell curves all the way down.

Personally I have been microdoseing anxiety for years. Sure, it’s a bad solution but it is a “functioning” solution.

Good insights. I will need to spend some pondering how much of this applies to myself. Thanks for sharing your experience.

Not a professional, just another meat bag trying to figure his own stuff out. Good job on the introspection. Some times just seeing our own behavior can be difficult. Getting help from a professional is always a good plan. Until then, I would suggest continuing to be mindful of that you do this and make a focused effort to pay attention to the emotions your are feeling when you do these things. Other than that, what are the things you DO want to do? When you you try take these new actions, what are your emotions at these times?

P.S. Being more self aware is a skill. Don’t be surprised if it your not very good at it to start.

I have started to mentally replace “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” with “every hurt you heal makes you stronger”. I am sorry you got hurt, I wish you the best on your journey to heal.

At the very least it makes a good exercise in questioning facts to make sure you are not coming to faulty conclusions by misunderstanding.