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  • I want to add, you will likely find your own solutions to these problems to make things more bearable. But you’ll likely be on your own in the process. The office is made for and made up predominately of an idea of business perfection and mostly contains neurotypical people. They will not understand your issues if you ask for ways to navigate your needs and the environment. But, you will likely find the things you need to manage. It might be a little scary and overwhelming at first. But it’s definitely not impossible. Give it some time before giving up and you might even find new ways to thrive.

    You will quickly find that neurotypical people also find their own ways to cope in this environment. They’ll just seem more normal to everyone when they do it.


  • This is just my experience. Every workplace is a bit different, but I think my answers will be generally applicable.

    • Are people going to be annoyed at me if I fidget, move around, and pace a lot? Yes
    • Are people going to be like, constantly looking at my screen? Am I going to feel judged the whole time Yes
    • I have the classic ADHD “do double the work in half the time, do nothing the other half”. Am I going to be judged on my work output, or how busy I make myself look?
      Busy work is going to be the most important aspect of your time. Looking busy without being busy is an important art
    • If I have downtime, would it be acceptable to read a book or something?
      No
    • If I have a chat with my coworker sitting next to me, is the whole office going to hear it? Am I going to be interrupting and bothering everyone? Everyone will hear and short conversations are often considered fine
    • Did you disclose ADHD to your boss? Did you get any accommodations for it? Not ADHD but anxiety and depression. They don’t really care. Make sure you do the paperwork for FMLA to cover your ass if behaviors become disruptive in your environment







  • There are some decent comments here overall with stuff I bet would help you. But it sounds to me like you have lost the appreciation and rewards from life and the world around you. I would wonder if you have undiagnosed anxiety.

    This isn’t going to sound great probably, but the problem isn’t the world around you, it’s just you. The good news, ‘you’ is the only part of this you can fix. The rest, totally outside of your control.

    You need to retrain your brain. Slow down to appreciate the smaller things. Even the tiniest things. Read up on the raisin technique. I think raisins are kind of dumb, but apply it to everyday things. Go slow. Examine. Savor. Eat slowly. And with each bite think of the process that got that very thing into your mouth. From growing the ingredients, raising, milking, whatever. The process and storage, maybe inspection, transporting it to the store, you buying it and cooking it. The skill it took to do that and the history of you cooking to get there. It’s an awful lot packed into each bite. Do that with as many bites as you can. Be mindful. Repeat it. You don’t need a different thought every time. Just keep thinking it through. And apply that to more things throughout your day as you’re able to. It’s not an overnight process but it’s much faster than you might think to regain the value, passion for things. Do this people as well. Forgo the NPC thoughts, and delve in. How they got to be who they are. Ask questions over time and build a mental roadmap.

    That’s pretty much it. I could have easily written your post word for word a decade ago. With therapy and general learning, fighting anhedonia was a process. And still is. But I do appreciate things and I look forward to things. I often look forward the most to me not being me tomorrow but a slightly better version of me.





  • I’ve seen it twice. In two people who are prone and had some mental instability issues. I am almost certain a mentally healthy person would never have any kind of an issue.

    I’m not a doctor or scientist, but here is what I saw and what I believe happened.

    Their mental health decline caused them to increase their intake by a decent amount. I think untreated, they would have had the same outcome in less than a year. But the weed sped things up a great deal. What should have taken months happened in just a couple/few weeks. One of them ended up standing on top of a police SUV downtown after giving away pretty much everything he had to homeless people. Including his wallet with his ID, social security card and debit/credit cards. It was the safest and quickest way to get him help so it ended up being a good thing. I tried everything I could in the days before that. Delusions of grandeur, constant tinfoil hat shit, thought he was being directly targeted by the government alphabet agencies because of what he knew.

    They’re both fine now. But I do believe the increased potency in modern weed negates many previous studies on the effects it can have. I’m not against it in the least. But definitely more wary.