Neurotypical people: Can’t wait to party!

flicker: The laundry ain’t gonna do itself and I’m not allowed to do it without drugs soooo…

I work with a lot of veterans and the thing that breaks my heart is how many of them really bought into the lie. They really think they sacrificed years of their lives, some of them went through hell, all for the people of their country. And when or if they realize that they were used, it can break them.

Many, not all obviously, but many of them are victims of this self-same system of oppression. Taking it out on them is exactly what the people who pull their strings want from us.

No war but class war.

I actually came to the comments to see if we had this information! Thanks.

The zipper in th3 back also helps if you have a big chest and don’t want it bifurcated by a zipper.

And you can’t put that same zipper (if it goes all the way up the back) on the side… if you have wide hips.

So at least that still has reason to exist.

Source: my own body and never wearing a front-faced zipper after seeing why we don’t do that.

My medicine gives me anxiety as it wears off and makes it difficult for me to sleep. It also makes me very not hungry.

Congratulations on getting here!

Please keep in mind that medication does have negative side effects you’ll need to manage. It’s not a golden bullet. But it’s very, very, very helpful to those of us it helps (I’m one)! I hope you get the results you’re looking for!

What are you talking about.

Treatment for ADHD is (not always, but often) stimulant medication. There’s no herb you can grow at home to treat that, and that’s a good thing, because the stuff we use to treat ADHD apparently turns neurotypicals into addicts.

This was the one I was coming to add. It gets stuck in my head for weeks.

Yes, definitely see a different doctor.

I agree with literally every point you’ve made (especially the ‘had to be there’ notes, it’s so hard trying to explain that) but one.

Here comes a billion words on how I love Sun and Moon. Feel free to skip them, I’m just trying to add to the conversation.

Sun and Moon is on my list of faves because of the slow island vibes, the sun and moon motif… Oh. Let me take a moment and say, as a grass type trainer, I have gotten absolutely effed with starter choices. I love plants, I love flowers, and… It’s insane how often the grass-type starter is the weakest in design. So let me say when Rowlet hit the scene, I fell in love. This precious little floof who turns his head all the way around to look at me in battle, and then turns into a moody teenager when he becomes Datrix (if you’re petting him after battle, and you touch the feather in front of his face he gets so MAD!), finally turning into the extremely badass Decidueye? Grass/Ghost? Hell. Yes. After watching water and fire get bangers of starters for ages, only occasionally getting a starter that felt like it was “good enough” rarely, finally getting my owl was like a sword-in-the-stone moment.

I hear you on Z-Moves but I do really love the idea of doing a little Hawaiian-style dance with your Pokemon to power them up. It feels more like I’m contributing than pointing a rock at something. I actually enjoy that some of the dances look really stupid because you have to ask yourself, “Do I want to look cool right now, or do I want to look a little silly and absolutely destroy my enemies?” There’s also something excellent in facing a friend in battle, and watching them choose to do a dumb pose with mounting horror. “Hahaha, Chris is doing a dance and the background is pink and oh god no he’s chosen to destroy me.”

Me and my clone will be allies. I don’t know if we could get along well enough to cohabitate, but we would definitely help each other.

I often shape and paint my nails and these things chip polish like nothing, so I’ll use the teaspoon I have lying out from the last time I made tea, probably.

So again I’m basing this on myself. I think a healthy relationship doesn’t necessarily require a lot of personal change. It requires healthy communication, it requires healthy compromise, but if you’re compatible (and something of this comes with the maturity to understand who you are and what your needs are, versus your wants) then you can fit together well with the right person without needing to change who you are.

And I don’t love the pairing of the concept of growing (as a person) to growing to be something, or someone, who fits someone else. When I grow as a person it’s learning new skills or trying a new hobby, it’s growing me. Not conforming myself to someone else.

Which is a very important distinction because I grew up with a narcissist for a mother and it made me very codependent, and I essentially lost my 20s to failed relationships spent learning that it isn’t about making whoever I’m with happy, and it isn’t about making myself better to them. It’s about knowing who I am, and embracing that so I don’t enter or stay in a relationship that isn’t already a good fit.

I’m with someone now who had the same trauma. We’ve discussed these observations. We know who we both are, and we fit. And as we grow, individually, as we pursue knowledge and hobbies and help others, we communicate, we care for one another, and we continue to fit.

So again, I’m only pulling from my life experience, but I feel like anyone can settle down or find the right person. They just have to know who they are and what they want, and find someone else who knows who they are and what they want.

I have no idea what that means.

She’s only a few years younger than I am and I only just now found someone to settle down with who makes me happy. Based on that and nothing else, I think she’ll get there as long as she keeps trying.

Not to be annoying but I actually carry a nice steel thermos with me and pour anything I might drink into the thermos.

It only feels like a hassle the first time. You get a steel thermos with a steel straw and now you’re really cooking with gas.

I’m agreeing with all the people who say they don’t notice until after they’ve read a post, but I wanted to add a Yo ho! to my comment.

Are you kidding? The nails are also pirates!

“Sword of Damocles” like bitch we used service pack 2 XP for ever. “We won’t support something” means nothing if the original product was built right.

…Ohhh now I see the problem. Nevermind, everybody, carry on.

I got that beat mercilessly as a little girl masking version of ADHD where my sink is never not empty but even if I didn’t, I understand it and I understand depression which is so often comorbid with untreated ADHD and we deserve to celebrate every success like this.

Now if I could go home after work today and sweep and mop my damn downstairs, that would be the kind of success that I can only dream of. We need ADHD collectives where I’ll come do your dishes (as long as you have gloves and a fresh sponge that doesn’t stink) and you can come do my stupid floor.