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It probably is. Don’t let my experience invalidate yours even a tiny little bit.

I hesitate to ask, but how was he trying to stimulate himself that he ended up pissing all over himself?

Me: “That’s not ADHD, that’s just being human!”
Her: “No, no, really, not.”
Me: “What are you saying? I don’t have ADHD.”
Her: “You sure?”
Me: “Of course I’m sure.”
Me: Joins lemmy.
Lemmy: Lots of ADHD memes.
Me: “Huh.”

And yes, I thought I was the only really outgoing shy person I knew of, and I couldn’t ever make sense of it.

I was thinking of posting that I was in a relationship where my partner regularly got cross with me for not figuring out what she wanted or needed “You could tell I would…” No, no I could not. (I think I’m mildly neurodivergent with aspects of ADHD and asperger’s.) The thing is that I was always in trouble for not anticipating my partners wants and needs, but I found it upsetting to be berated for not reading minds. Getting cross with me for being out doing perfectly normal things but later than expected for better, but I wanted to warn you that I found that affection was increasingly frequently withheld for my crimes and we completely lost our love life. It was We ended up friends, but not lovers.

Things that stood out to me include telling you that you had to do the washing up and then being cross that you did it. That was set up exactly so that there was absolutely no way that you could avoid being shouted at.

I worry that you both believe that everything is your fault and nothing is your partner’s fault, and I’m particularly concerned that there is anger and shouting in your home that you had absolutely no way of stopping happening and that your partner is blaming you for that happening.

There’s a book/pdf called “Why does he do that?” that I’ve come across online that’s written to help women who are in abusive and controlling relationships (with men) come to an understanding that that’s what’s happening to them, and that they can’t win because not being able to predict what will upset their partner to the point of emotional or physical abuse is by design. I don’t think this is the situation you’re in, but it has echoes of it. I don’t think that being emotionally manipulative or abusive is exclusive to men, but I think the book is worth reading anyway.

Something needs to change and I’m not at all convinced it’s even remotely close to being all your fault that’s there’s shouting and withheld affection in your relationship.

How did your wife learn to not do these things??

How did your wife learn to not do these things??

Thanks for publicly invalidating my experience and my advice. Really made my day.

If it’s too deep for your finger, it’s too deep for qtips. Don’t use qtips.

They also irritate the skin in a way that your finger doesn’t.

If you have gunk that’s not coming out with your finger, pippette small quantities of olive oil in, leave it there for a bit and tip it back out into some kitchen roll. Repeat once or twice a day for a week or longer if necessary.

MUCH, MUCH easier than that is DON’T compact the ear wax by using qtips in your ear.

You think you’re scooping stuff out, and it feels so good, but you’re compacting it on the way in and irritating the skin on the twist, promoting more ear wax. You’ll think you have some hearing loss from noise, but it’ll be the compacted ear wax because you didn’t listen to the advice everyone gave you to not use qtips. Use your finger, but don’t use qtips.

My grandpa said the same. A year or two later when he said it again. It was then that I tried it. Gramps!!

You will compact your earwax and it will get steadily more and more blocked up. Don’t ask me how I know this.

Time travel, evidently.

Why do you use the distro you use?

People said Ubuntu is easy, but I prefer green to orange so I went with Mint.

This is truly awful. Microsoft need to return to sanity. Awful awful awful.

I quote, absolutely directly:

both sides are the same

It’s a breathtakingly stupid take.

And back in real life rather than your imagination, we’ve got the actual rapist versus the guy who once smelled someone’s hair. Yeah definitely both the same. /s

Yeah, America is a capitalist hellhole, but the false equivalence you folks are pushing is absolutely astonishing.

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It blows my mind that even now, there are people like you who claim they can’t tell the difference between Biden and Trump.

Bold of you to suggest that attempting to teach these people would change anything on the world.

You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.

Fat contains long hydrocarbon H-C-H chains (with other stuff at the end). When it’s broken down to release energy, it combines with (3) oxygen O2 molecules, making H=O=H (water, H2O) that you sweat, pee or breathe out, and O=C=O (carbon dioxide) that your breathe out. Carbon accounts for significantly more of the weight than the hydrogen and it’s in this sense that you breathe it out.

If you breathe significantly more without exercise, you’ll hyperventilate, which I’m sure is even less fun than the exercise in lengthy doses, and I don’t think you’ll lose weight.