I’d like to offer a reframe that’s been helpful to me, if I may.

The inconsistency will haunt you throughout your entire life, but only if you let it. Learning how to embrace and understand my emotions (instead of controlling [or suppressing] them) has been incredibly worthwhile to me. Therapy is a good avenue for this, but I understand it’s both expensive and not yet fully accepted by American culture. I also recommend the book The Tao of Fully Feeling, and here’s an excerpt: https://www.pete-walker.com/taoFullyFeeling.htm

idk if this is a programming specific question. It feels more like “perfectionism” or a low-level OCD. For the programming piece, using some sort of task tracking system might be helpful. For example, after a task has been completed (aka a solution was found), move on to the next predefined task.

Another vaguely related term: premature optimization

The therapy take is that this feeling comes about because you grew up in an environment where it wasn’t emotionally/physically safe for you to relax. Even as an adult with well managed/medicated ADHD, the subconscious parts of your brain are still trying to protect you, so no relaxation allowed. imo, this is extra common in ADHD folk because even parts of our own brains were mad at us for not having executive function.

In particularly bad cases, this can rise to the level of being C-PTSD. Feeling unable to relax is a big indicator that whatever is going on in your head needs to be addressed. Therapy is expensive, but there’s ways to get it covered by insurance, especially if you have an ADHD diagnosis.

Since others don’t seem to be having this specific issue, have you tried uninstalling and reinstalling Sync? Maybe some data on your phone got corrupted? 🤷

I’m not autistic, just ADHD, so please stop me if I’m invading a space where my commentary isn’t welcome.

You didn’t recognize that the girl in question was setting boundaries, which isn’t your fault, but I’ll get back to that in a minute. From her perspective, she made it clear that she wasn’t interested in you romantically, but she felt like subsequent actions still had romantic intent, like spending a lot of time near her and chatting. The way she was communicating with you wasn’t working, so she tried asking a friend to find an alternative resolution. I don’t want to get into the details of defining what “creepy” might mean to different people, but what’s important is that she felt unheard and wasn’t able to influence her environment to meet her needs. And that sucks for anyone.

Autism makes it hard to understand subtler forms of boundary setting, but you can totally learn how! I had a poor time understanding and respecting boundaries because throughout my whole childhood, my boundaries were never respected, nor were anyone’s boundaries in my childhood environment, so I never learned. And the things I implicitly learned where downright harmful. I may be projecting a bit, but I suspect you have a difficult time both setting and respecting boundaries because you haven’t been taught. Personally, I loved the book (or audiobook) Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Tawwab. It walks through a bunch of conversation examples regarding setting boundaries, which my autistic brother said is super helpful.

https://www.amazon.com/Set-Boundaries-Find-Peace-Reclaiming/dp/0593192095

In your HAProxy config (like in this example), it’s checked from top to bottom. So your top-most frontend case should be the one that checks for the special keyword case. Then, if it doesn’t match the keyword, HAProxy will continue going down the list until it finds a frontend that does match. So your second frontend should match for everything, because if it doesn’t find a match, HAProxy shows an error

Cool, I think that first link will work for you. Then you can just ‘redirect’ for the no-keyword case: https://www.haproxy.com/documentation/haproxy-configuration-tutorials/http-redirects/

Remember, SSL/HTTPS does encrypt the URL path, so if the final website requires HTTPS, your proxy will need to have its certificate trusted by your clients

Maybe have two cases:
For the (matched keyword) case, something like this: https://serverfault.com/questions/729232/reg-exp-for-url-in-haproxy

For the (random routing) case, something like: https://www.haproxy.com/blog/haproxy-configuration-basics-load-balance-your-servers

I am a little confused on your question, though. It sounds like you maybe want 3 cases? Can you try wording it differently?

Generally unique request IDs have to be generated by the client that sends the request. If the client doesn’t generate an ID, you’re probably out of luck. That said, do you have information about the client you’re expecting to call your Squid cache? One unofficial, but common place for clients to put a request ID is in the header “X-Request-ID”

Tangential thought: maybe the two are related? Like, on days where you’re super busy, you’re more likely to get a bit dehydrated from the busyness (lol, root of business?), and ALSO more likely to miss steps in the evening routine, like bringing the water bottle to bed, for the same reason.

Other than medication, the only thing that works for me is going consistently with someone else. Playing games like tennis or racket ball also keeps my brain from giving up. Indoor bouldering where I can make progress on smaller routes can keep me from losing motivation or getting bored, too

I’ve been very happy with my Nvidia Shield. It’s powerful enough for all 4k HDR media and runs Android so it’s customizable but I don’t have to think about it.

My friend, you think this likely because your family exhibits these traits (genetics) as do your friends(attracted to like groups). You’re using two ADHD meme traits, like thinking everyone feels this way and using extra parentheses (for bonus content). I bet you’ve also been told that you’re not living up to your potential (and that’s true!).

If you want something objective, have a coffee or two at 6pm and see if you’re still able to fall asleep that night. The neuro typical folks would be unable to quiet down their brain.

Hi, dropping in to say that everyone who relates to this has undiagnosed ADHD. Getting diagnosed at 29 was life changing for me

I don’t have a good answer for your direct question. It sounds to me like you’re primarily in search of someone you can trust. If I were in your situation, I’d try to find a friend or family member that I trusted absolutely, then see if that friend was willing to talk through the psych plan/feelings/treatments. That trusted friend may be able to offer a different view point that will convince you that your psychiatrist’s plan is good/bad for you personally.

I’d do it this way because then I could have 2 separate concerns. 1) I’d need to find a trustworthy friend. 2) I’d need to find a knowledgeable psychiatrist. I think that’s much easier than finding a psychiatrist who can be both.