I’m not really sure what you’re asking, but I will say, that most couple’s, be they gay, straight, or otherwise: do not like to talk about explicit details of their intimacy.

What happens in the bedroom are sensitive vulnerable personal moments. And its generally culturally taboo for strangers to ask and pry and expose those details.

I eventually quit, I finally cold Turkey’d it, I combined it with quiting nicotine.

I’ve tried to quit many times in the past, but this time has been the longest at 5 months or so

The advice I have: Don’t plan to quit, at some point you’ll have the impulse to quit after it weighs on your head for a while, that’s when you just lean into it - in the spur of the moment, toss your stuff or put it away someplace that’s annoying to get it back out of. Be as fast about this as possible as to not give time to the little voice that says “one more”: catch your brain off guard.

Then importantly, ensure to not substitute your habit with something else, like binge snacking or another drug - just accept that you’re gonna be uncomfortable - and embrace the discomfort - potentially make use of a fidget toy - but I found success in just destroying the habit rather than replacing/redirecting it. It took a couple weeks before it no longer was on my mind.

Finally: don’t beat yourself up if it takes a couple attempts to break the habit, each time I quit I got better at quiting.

It took a few weeks before I felt like it was all out of my system, and I started feeling healthier and better and more productive and more myself, and now I actually decline weed when offered because I like my sobriety. Mama Ganja taught me a lot, and she’s taught me all she can, and no I have moved on.

Some advice that has taken me over a decade to learn myself:

There are no rules, the titles are made up, the responsibilities and requirements do no matter.

Get what you can from your job, and once you get something do your Best even if that best sucks, and stay until you have gotten what you want out of the job, or realize you can’t or don’t want to do it anymore, and then start again doing something else.

Don’t ever limit yourself thinking you need to “level up” or something needs to get unlocked.

Learn by doing, try your best, you will make things that suck sometimes, but as you do more and more you should be making things better.

Or, it’s because whoever is doing this hates freedom of information and historical evidence. There’s a long list of powerful people and governments who have the resources and will to carry out these attacks.

Cyber warfare is real, and the Internet archive is a museum and library of culture and truth. It provides evidence and context to our past.

As in conventional war, it is valuable to the amoral to destroy culture and truth in order to control it. Many would like to kill that to supplant it with their version of events that can’t be refuted with evidence.

I will maintain ownership of the repository, but I won’t pass it down to anyone else. First, because I feel it’s not up to me to decide who to pass the project down to, and second, because there is no one else to pass the project to.

“But I want and can maintain it, can I take it over?” Let me put it plain and simple: No! I don’t know you, I don’t trust you! Fork it and carry on!

Bravo

Starting with a simple idea that could theoretically be completed by a simple task, but as you implement it, reality complicates and sends you off on many deviations from the original straight and narrow path.

Yak shaving could be required and unknown at the beginning, or it could be a lack of discipline leading to scope creep - often it’s both

The famous Malcolm in the middle scene for ref: https://youtu.be/AbSehcT19u0?si=Pchmbf3509l1CbeQ - but the term was originally coined from elsewhere: https://en.m.wiktionary.org/wiki/yak_shaving