I’m a turtle called Calmie, I moved from feddit.nl
I did that when i got laid off in January. Can recommend. Mental reset helps. Having no job helps with refocusing on whats really important, like own mental wellbeing, family and friends. Good times, tho i got pretty stressed out because searching for new job took a while, despite everyone else in IT got one in 15mins it seemed at the moment
Been there done that! 10years in company, we got downsized, got thrown away like a trash. Took months to deal with emotions and set myself to do anything. In the end I realized that I was relying on job to be an anchor in my life that everything was revolving around. Losing that anchor forced me to search for a new one, more reliable and something that I can control and that makes me better.
I started with cleaning my house, then deep cleaning shelves and such, then basement, etc. Got interested in working out, and started doing pushups and such. I learned that I was missing that - creating my own schedule, having goals of my own. It was scary at first, ngl.
Trying to do small steps, very small sometimes, that improves your situation bit by bit is what I found helps me with being overwhelmed.
Wish you all the best, I hope you recover soon and find better job soon :)
Going to the gym first time. I am 35, sitting behind my pc since i was 10. After going out and training for several months now my back doesn’t hurt anymore, so i recommend :)
Gg on beating that cancer <3
In polish we do prefix po-. Jutro being tomorrow. Overmorrow would be pojutrze, after tomorrow, where you can stack one or two more, but ye more for comedic effect :)
I’m at 35, still full of shit, but indeed getting it sorted out and pulling my shit together is a theme since last couple of years.
I also make computers do beep boop :). Wish you many good years before you <3
Workday
Going thru similar shit right now myself I found an anchor in working out. I started from total zero - zero push ups, zero pull ups, zero sqats, zero crunches. I can do most of these now, with pullups to go still. But I also got into better mindset and learning discipline too. Good stuff that I’ve neglected for 20+ years.
You were gaining exp in opsec by doing that :D
Thanks!
It took many years to start to know myself, I neglected myself by improperly understanding stoicism that correlated with some mental issues and low self esteem. Many triggers I had I just broke thru with pain, always felt exhausted. There was no sense of accomplishment in the struggle as things I struggle with are normal things for regular people, that’s what I told myself, so I should not make a fuss.
It takes a lot of effort to have compassion for one self.
First, some background: Feeling stupid can happen because when you feel anxiety, your frontal lobe (where you think) turns off. Anxiety is a form of fight or flight, and when that kicks in, your amygdalas (base of brain) block off the thinking part of your brain.
TIL, thank you <3
This one paragraph explained a lot for me why during my anxiety attacks I feel like I cannot do anything. I gonna try to rationalize this information next time it triggers. Recently I had good results with doing long walks (compared to my sitting life) with doggo.
I find it helpful in two ways - when I already got an attack I go with him to stop. This one is kinda coping mechanism to get away from the trigger.
Other thing is I started to make it into my routine to go on longer walks, and during them I explore some topics I find uncomfortable and it makes them less threatening than when I sit at home. The goal is to get accustomed to the feeling, take it in environment that is safe space to explore it. I want to be able to identify it and then maybe could teach myself to react differently, instead of crippling myself.
I know you have Kraków spelled basically the same, in Illinois iirc. Which is nice 🙂
Just to add to this. Take a nice shower, eat something light, wear comfy cloths, and take your trip. Stay safe, enjoy, and have bottle of water with you :)
I managed finally to set up several VMs and connect them into kubernetes cluster so I can learn that tech properly. I come from one or two layers below, I’ve been Linux admin who touched Ansible and did some open stack ocherstration but never had opportunity to go higher due to the project specific issues. So here I am, in theory a senior, learning popular tech which is required from juniors. Humbling experience, and NGL after 30 it’s getting harder, but it’s still fun.
For details if anyone is interested I made six vms, one serves haproxy, two are worker VM, three are controller. They are connected into network, and I run kubespray to create cluster from that. All localhost which is nice. I make small readme on it to later format and put ^^ I had issues with set up like WSL having python3.8 and kubespray refusing to find pip deps, which I figure more people might encounter if they experiment. And as admin, for me it was always the greatest hussle to setup the toolset, all later steps are a breeze compared.
Kubernetes seems cool :3
Drums and piano gonna get far more challenging with new limbs.
Suddenly that double neck guitar send more reasonable to buy too :D
This is wholesome sorry. I am happy for you both anons and that you have doggo a great loving home <3
Everything that you use for prolonged amounts of time every day. For me it was ergonomic chair, keyboard, pillow. Expensive is a word, but I would rather think higher quality when choosing replacement for stuff I use.
Another category of things is hobby equipment, for me it’s instruments. When I buy one it’s to last. So when I was buying digital piano I went for one over my budget because I don’t plan to get rid of it for next 5-10 years still, and it was 5years ago. Overall stuff that you don’t usually think of buying frequently.
Last category I think of i go for higher quality stuff then generic ones are travel stuff. Last thing you want during your trip, short or long, distant or near, is to deal with faulty bag, broken wheel, or such.
tldr: Being mindful and trying to find new ways of using stuff that I already have before I go buy new.
I reuse. All those bigly plastic bags from 20+ toilet paper rolls - I use them at least as thrash bags. That’s like simplest one, but also for example when my clothes are beyond being deemed worthy of being sleepwear, they get cut into cloths to live on as cleaning utensils.
When something breaks I tend to try to repair it instead of getting new stuff. If that’s impractical or not possible, depending on a thing I disassemble it, and salvage what can be useful. Also by doing this I learn how stuff was made, which I liked to know since being a kid :)
I found europalletes and repurposed them to make my balcony space nicer (made flooring and a small bench out of them) I also ask people if they have spare construction materials, like bits of wood or stuff like that. There are fb neighbour groups in my area, and it makes so much sense to me to use what I can get in my projects. I rarely have a full-on plan/vision of the stuff I want to make. I much rather have a storage with random materials and stuff and play adult version of Lego with them.
When faced with obsolete electronics, I try to repurpose it and assimilate into little Borg of mine (how I like to call my little network). I learned java a bit to write small android app to decode amiibo NFC data to control the stuff around my flat when phone (placed under the tabletop) detected Pikachu statue my lights toggled. Such stuff.
I dunno if with me it’s less about saving and more about how to use things in different way and getting most out of stuff. A chipped cup can still be an awesome pot for your new plant friend. Broken cutlery knife can be helpful as a tool when you wouldn’t want to use proper knife.
That said. When I have to buy something, like hobby-related, or electronics so guitar, piano, home recording studio shit like that, also PC parts - I set myself a budget, read upon things available, do my research and order stuff for 110% of my initial budget. What I mean by this, we have a saying in polish - chytry dwa razy traci - sly/greedy loses twice - as in you buy cheap shit, it breaks, you have to buy new thing again. When I set on buying something it will take me months to do my homework, and also because of my upbringing, lessens the anxiety from spending money.
Dune.
Good job on beating cancer <3