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Cake day: July 24th, 2023

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  • Literally as soon as I was finished with my tantrum, I started thinking of ways to fix it.

    I think it’s a really good example of a principal that a lot of us can struggle with - sometimes you just have to feel your emotions and let them rule you for a minute in order to deal with them. (although I wouldn’t usually recommend this for anger of course.) But we often try to bottle up our sadness or frustration or even our joy, instead of feeling them and letting them pass by us. It’s much quicker and easier to process some emotions by letting them happen.

    In this specific situation, I should have a) stopped sooner; or b) found something to destroy that didn’t matter. But, I still did feel a lot better for having it out of my system even if it was silly to damage my work





  • I’m in a similar situation - I badly hurt my best friend from school and we stopped talking. This was over a decade ago. I know from mutual friends that she’s moved away, she’s happy and has children now. Although I really regret how I acted, I think it’s best to just leave it in the past. No need to dredge up old pain for her just so I can feel better for apologising.

    Idk if that’s the right answer, but it’s what I’ve chosen.






  • That’s different from anything I’ve seen in the UK. Every house seems to be surrounded with lawns and so spread out, and yet you still need whatever that giant building with the green roof and car park is. Presumably a shop? Why’d you need such a big building for so few people? And why are all the houses detached with no terraces? Very strange…

    (All of that was rhetorical, I’m sure it makes sense if that’s what you’re used to. And having more room to spread out and less history to deal with)








  • I was thinking about this earlier today for myself. Not specifically about computers, but the same principle. If I have something that bugs me and wastes 10 seconds of my time every single day but I could permanently fix the problem in an hour - logically it’s worth fixing. Even if it eventually saves time, I have to invest an hour of time and brainpower right now. If it’s something I don’t really care about, it’s just not worth it. I don’t need that hassle, I’ll just have a small annoyance every day instead of a big annoyance today. I’ve got better things to do. Like browsing Lemmy apparently