You win, you outstupided my stupid.

She threw the cat

Purr-beans-fur-namics

The fact that you changed “spit on” to “spit up on” was perfect. These are emotional toddlers flailing their arms and kicking their feet and accidentally spitting up on all of us and everything sane. Kudos

Mine is the same, but she’s started coming out of hiding much earlier after years of realizing she survived the onslaught

See, you do understand. The farce that you don’t so you can label yourself ND is idiotic

Spoiler alert: none of us actually care about how anyone else’s weekends were or how the other person’s kids are doing. You’re just being intentionally obtuse and tedious

We all have to interact with people. That’s living in a community. But when you do, being nice is all it takes. “He’s a really nice guy, he’s just kinda quiet.” This isn’t an uncommon thing to hear about others. It’s literally a common type of person. But then there are assholes. The way you’re describing it you just don’t care to be nice and you’ve found an excuse in neurodivergence that you’re latching onto.

I guess it’s ‘good’ I can ‘change’ if I so decide? but really, change, for what?

Read Books on ethics, not a book about whether you being rude and off putting means you’re neurodivergent.

You don’t have to socialize. But being a decent person means sacrificing your comfort for others’ sometimes. I’m definitely a huge introvert. But just because I’d rather be alone doesn’t mean I’m an asshole to others. Some people don’t get introverts, it just doesn’t compute for them. You can choose to be an asshole to those people—they’re not doing anything to try to hurt you—or you can choose to be decent. You’re just choosing the former.

I’ve been accused behind my back of being manipulative, uncaring, rude, and also a sociopath. Once this impression is given, it is impossible to make people change their minds, including management. I usually don’t fight it because, really, fighting gossip? that’s sticking to 5 year old level politics and what’s the point?

Welcome to being an adult. We all think it’s asinine. Some people get wrapped up and completely engrossed in it. They make petty office politics their entire existence. Some people play the game but only to rise through the ranks. Some people stay out of it. You don’t really fit into any of these categories, it seems. It kinda just sounds like you’re a bit of a dick. That doesn’t make you ND, some people are just kinda dicks.

And I don’t mean that as a slight. Some of my best friends I would classify as being dicks. But it’s everything else you bring to the table that matters. Are you so good at what you do that people put up with it? Or are you just kind of a dick with no redeeming qualities?

Finding reasons for being unlikeable or off-putting doesn’t change the fact that that’s how people see you. You don’t sound ND, you just sound like you don’t care to change. That’s different.

It’s not impossible to make people change their minds. Just be nice. That’s all it takes. The qualities of a nice person aren’t constantly changing and impossible to follow for ND people. You’re just making excuses.

This is the problem with self-diagnoses. There is a fine line between being uncaring and being unable to care. One is a bad person, the other person is possibly BPD.

OP, until you get diagnosed with something, leave your excuses for being a dick aside and work on bettering yourself. Even if you end up being unable, it still doesn’t mean you have Asperger’s. Because bad people still refuse to change sometimes.

I have a periscopic girlfriend. She sticks her little eyeball up the to the surface so I can stay under the water cruising along and fire nukes and kill the Russians and Germans