it’s so true. other people don’t need to conform to your standard or wishes or priorities. Expect people to act the way they act, even if that means they act shitty.

Accept the fact that most people will use you to compare themselves against to boost their own ego. They may look down on you for something out of your control, and it isn’t your responsibility to give a shit or fix that. Just do the job.

I can’t say I have many firends at work, I don’t. But my indifference makes me a boring target for bullies too. Throw shade at me, IDGAF, I know how (not) to value the opinions of others.

One of the most common ways for people to assuage their own insecurites is to put someone else down.

It’s an immediate weird kind of ego boost for the majority of people, especially if they can also have someone agree with them.

It’s pretty unreasonable. I’m guessing there might be a common theme to find with other apes, but yeah its really something you can write off as thoughtless.

Thanks. I use loops too :)

I think people need to figure out the warning shot. Like you have to find an assertive non-hostile way to tell someone to stop their behaviour. If they continue to do it, then the “it’s not bullying” card becomes pretty flimsy.

Sucks to be awesome, i guess.

I could not imagine what it would be like to feel so threatened as to be filled with such a hateful sentiment. I should really say it sucks to be whoever that kind of person is.

Yeah Reddit is a giant pile of dogshit. Good riddance.

I have to ask, did your friend get told to kill themselves because of being a gay autistic furry or was it for something else?

I think you’re probably implying that is it, but I’ve been told on reddit to kill myself for all kinds of things that are less interesting than that.

I do not like the term AuDHD.

I don’t mind if that’s how you want to refer to yourself or anything, but I think it adds noise when you try to socialize the concepts of autism or ADHD to the layperson.

It’s an example where we’ve oversubscribed to labelling, to have a category for both when the word ‘both’ will do just as well. And you could say that it’s just because of the high comorbidity of the conditions and, for sure, that’s what it is… but regular folks still trying to adjust their idea of autism a bit to just include Asperger’s and having a hard time figuring that out.

And so I think it undermines efforts to advance cultural acceptance.

Yep.

It really becomes important not to value the opinions of others when you are different and outcast. Selectively, if you can manage that, but universally if you can’t.

It helps that these folks operate on a lower standard of behaviour in how they treat others. It helps to understand they do these things to push down their own insecurities and to feed their ego. You can decide not to value the opinions of those who aren’t worthy of judging you and you shouldn’t try to appease them or put your energy into trying to control how they behave.

Put energy into learning how to properly not care.

I didn’t realize there is a version recommended for autism. Is it the ‘blended’ style?

I love that we need to make the autistic people aware there is actually a day for them. I suppose everyone else is even less aware…

BUT WE GOT A DAY.

Well maybe about 11 1/2 hours left in my case… I think I’m going to go play a bunch of April’s fools day pranks on people and then blame it on autism day because it takes me a little longer to get the joke.

Yeah they aren’t the greatest guys to work with. I don’t worry about it overly, they can’t get very nasty or it will be trouble for them.

But thanks for the well wishes. Hopefully it works out

Sure, yeah i get you. No in this particular instance the direct call out wont be effective.

Passive aggressive manipulator is the lead antagonist. I don’t really care to put my own energy into it, or take the bait to get screwed around with.

I do call them out for bullying others, when it happens, and it usually stops in those cases.

Thanks for your thoughts

Thanks. You absolutely know where I’m at and I’m the same way. I love idea of being the human embodiment of Do-not-disturb.

Oh I am cool. It’s not my problem that most people can’t figure that out ;)

(I mean, that IS the problem, isn’t it lol)

Thanks for relating. It does feel good to be understood. I know you’ll agree. Hug accepted.

Why is it rude to not do small talk? I don’t understand that.

I literally can’t make use of that information or force my brain to generate irrelevant nonsense for others to somehow vibe with.

I’m not making a judgement against those who enjoy it or anything, I just cant do it.

I think there is a case that could be made for ‘screen time’ having some kind of impact for how someone might come to value the presentation of persona for the sake of others’ comfort.

Like if you spend less time in person-to-person interactions, its might mean you won’t value it enough to constantly keep it up.

Yeah… that’s exactly what Im taking about.

REAL. This happened to me today in a meeting at work, and I don’t get it.

Me: “The process we’re following doesn’t work for me because it is prone to so much contention getting to a definition. It’s very frustrating.”

Them: “Im surprised you would say that. We’re (consultant) not here to make things difficult, we’re here to help you.”

Me: “I did not say you intend to make this difficult. I said this process, the manner in which we are conducting this review, does not work for me and is the cause of the frustration”

Them: “So you’re saying everything we’ve been doing is wrong”

Me: “I gotta leave this call for a bit. Please excuse me.”