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  • This is my exact same experience. I ask for someone to elaborate on their stance, get told (not accused, told) I’m trolling. Ask for explanation/definition of a concept, get called an idiot shitlib and told to read some theory. Ask for civility, get told I deserve abuse for “endorsing genocide”. (By the way, I absolutely oppose the genocide in Gaza. But I’m a genocide supporter I guess because I won’t flush my vote third party this November.)

    Hexbear is a community that expects you to conform. Every time there is a post like this, someone comes out of the woodwork and says “They’re nice people if you talk like them and agree with them on everything.” It’s cool that you’re not getting abused, but abuse is coming from that space, whether or not it is happening to you.

    It’s a shame because I would like to hear the nuances of their viewpoints, but I can never get them to tell me what they are. Always complaining that nobody tries to understand, but dogpiling on anyone that asks questions. Then they pull up your report history and tell you “It’s just a little dunking bro, stop being a snowflake” for not putting up with it.

    Users of Hexbear, if you’re reading these words, do better. Nobody is going to sympathize with your cause if you antagonize outsiders that want to learn more.


  • Something clicked reading this comment and I realized how much my tabletop roleplay matches the way I approach conflict in real life. I always go for high charisma and try to talk down enemies and resolve through dialogue. I’ll usually go for persuasion before deception and intimidation. Likewise I’m super averse to lying and getting in heated arguments in my real life encounters.

    Hmm.







  • Unfortunately, failing classes in public education is not at all common anymore. It requires a lot of documentation, meetings, calls, individualized curriculum adjustments, and a multitude of second chances. On top of that, administration is not a fan because it makes the school look bad in their eyes.

    A lot of the teachers I worked with would vent their frustration that it was way too much work to fail a student or get them dropped from the program. Unfortunately, I was too busy figuring out how to update the curriculum from Windows 7, on machines built to run Windows 7, as well as just learning how to teach (my “training” was about half a day of sitting in on other classes), to fight that kind of battle. At some point, it’s a disservice to the rest of the class to spend that time and energy on the ones who are there to coast.

    I tried my best. Hopefully everybody learned a few things. If nothing else, I certainly did.





  • Waited for time to pass and dust to settle to respond.

    I appreciate this.

    Understandably, I think people in mental health-focused communities are sensitive to feeling like their experience is being invalidated. Consequentially, sometimes i feel as though it is hard to speak a different opinion for fear of being labeled as someone who invalidates.

    I’m not here for arguments. If differing opinions will result in that then maybe I will bite my tongue. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders based on this comment so I believe the community is headed in the right direction.


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    Thats very dismissive of you and does not fit this community well imo.

    That’s not your place to decide.

    pushing your assumptions on others is a dick move.

    Don’t really know what assumptions I pushed here.

    Telling people you feel your existence is denied because someone says “autistic people don’t have powers” is just not a good look. Calling names and picking fights with people who don’t agree with you isn’t either.

    Unfortunately for you, I’m not leaving this community just because you want me to. I will be blocking you because I didn’t come here to be called a dismissive dick. I suggest you do the same.

    Have a nice day.





  • I can absolutely relate to what you’re describing. Sometimes you need a break from a specific person, and it is not because you dislike them, you just really need a break. This is, from what I can tell, not a common neurotypical experience and so not something that neurotypical folks can relate to, and it’s hard to put it into words as a way that sounds anything other than “I don’t like being around you”.

    The closest I can come to putting it into words is that sometimes my mind behaves like a cat. One moment you’re both enjoying each other’s company, the next I’m totally full and need to go. It’s not about any specific person, it can happen with anybody I’m around.

    It’s good that you’re working to understand how to express your experience to others, it’s difficult but worth the time to strengthen relationships. Hopefully your partner understands that it’s not the easiest thing.