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  • Have you listened to any sports commentators? They all talk about <insert current game on tv> as if it’s the most important, world-changing event ever, and every little detail had some significance.

    My god, baseball is a game for (as Brits would say) boffins. Fans of the game could put meth-head ravers to sleep. I’ve worked on more exciting spreadsheets for business planning.

    And football has become just as bad, with the incessant pre-game/post-game commentary examining every nuance of a play - “I’m pretty sure if the inner aglet of his left shoe had moved the other way, we’d be talking about a completely different game”.

    Bread and circuses, appealing to our base nature. The difference between WWE and “actual” sports on tv is only a matter of degree.

    This seems relevant.


  • Excellent approach, putting that in my book of tools.

    I’d also be sure to ask the second person to finish what they were trying to say after person 1 was done.

    There are 2 reasons:

    1. Never know if they have a different perspective or other ideas. They may also have thought of something while listening.

    2. In the help desk world you learn these kinds of people get worse when they get shut down. If you actively engage them (even if you don’t really want to), they’ll feel heard, and maybe be less likely to feel compelled to interrupt. Plus you come across as a Good Guy® at work.


  • There’s some truth here, like poorly-treated children probably have difficulty with empathy, except I’ve known a few people that had very hard childhoods and are some of the kindest people I’ve ever met, as if they developed past those issues to understand how important empathy is.

    I also come from a large family, and while my siblings and my cousins had very similar upbringings, the variability in things like empathy and justice is extensive even among siblings (notably including twins).

    To me it seems like there’s a strong element of innate character trait with this stuff, as we’ve watched kids grow up and seen their character at 2 years old remain consistent into adulthood. If this stuff were driven mostly by environment, then at least most kids would be similar… And we’ve found they aren’t, it’s all over the map, unpredictable by the environment.

    Not to say environment doesn’t/can’t influence, it certainly can, but I don’t believe it’s usually the primary driver, just in cases where the environment is notably negative






  • I’d start with not saying anything, but writing a log/journal hourly, even if it’s just in a phone app that reminds you. Remember squeaky wheels get treated like they’re the problem - best to have documentation on your side.

    After maybe a month, then decide what your actions will be. Maybe just request shifts that happen to never coincide with this other person. Sometimes doing what you need is better than addressing the root cause.