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Cake day: July 26th, 2023

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  • A lot of people don’t realize how many times the problem they are solving has already been solved. But after being in the industry for 3 decades, very few things people are working on haven’t been done before. They just get put together in different combinations.

    As for AI, I have found it decent at wruting one time scripts to gather information I need to make design decisions. And it’s a little quicker when I need to look up a syntax for a language or like a resource name for terraform. But even one off scripts I sometimes have to ask it if a while loop wouldn’t be better and such.




  • They don’t even know what autism is. Genetics play a role, but most likely they simply affect the chances of developing autism. And really autism is a spectrum, so think like a clock. If the minute hand is between 10 and 2, it is autism, the rest isn’t. So it is less a thing you “have” and more about being in a range from thing that ends up causing a snowball effect. My kid is autistic. It is like there is a missing feedback channel that would cause a typical kid to modify there behavior. All that really translates to is a lower sensitivity to a specific feedback. Typical people will have a range, he is just very low on that range.






  • Triggers are the real key. Like needing to use the bathroom in the morning. Then hang a habit of taking meds right after. You have to look at the habits you already have, and connect new things to that. You can also build new habits, but if they are forced, they won’t have a high success rate. I built a habit of looking back into a space I am walking out of when not in my home. I built it on the anxiety of forgetting something. So it stuck. I try to build a habit of letting others talk, but it has no trigger, so it hasn’t stuck.




  • Not really poly, just more fluid about changing relationships. Basically, more short term, not life long, commitments. When it isn’t enough for a person, move on. And that shouldn’t be considered a failing of the other. People change, interests change, newness wears off. That’s natural. Society considering unmarried men as unstable, and unmarried women as somehow broken is just not right.
    If there are kids involved it gets more complicated of course. Then it gets into some kind of marriage contract or something. But raising kids these days is broken too. You almost need a professional involved full time just to keep up with all the things kids really need. Most of us parents just can’t do it all, both from a time/energy perspective and a skill perspective.


  • All said and done, the concept that people should be monogamous isn’t natural. Look at the animal kingdom. It’s pretty rare.
    Some people just don’t fit that mold. But society tends to look down on them. So for some, bucking the system is probably a source of joy and achievement that they want to share. For the listeners, humans often go along with things to avoid awkward interactions. Then go home later and say to someone, “I can’t believe she just said that.”