I can’t meditate in the way that everyone describes. I have a similar combination of brain traits, so I’ll share what helps me. One small caveat, I also have c-ptsd and my experience is that even my choice for meditation analog isn’t going to be helpful until you’re able to use therapeutic skills to protect yourself (like acknowledgment and redirection).

I have been told this counts as a “ritual” which might give you a keyword to find something for yourself that you’d prefer. But what I do is I make tea or coffee in a methodical and intentional way. Everything from choosing my beans, tea or herbal ingredients to the method of brewing gives me a chance to center myself and work out things that may be troubling me. I use a hand grinder and gooseneck kettle to make pour-over coffee. I harvest my own herbs or put together my own blend for tea and use a blooming pot. It’s very sense-driven but routine, which is important for my ADHD and autism to sit happily together for a few minutes.

Some people go for a run and find that meditative, I can see it because I feel similarly when I go for a hike to collect plant specimens. Really, with ADHD you may find that getting your body senses involved (yes even with primary inattentive) helps your brain loosen up and hit that meditative point. I don’t think I’ve ever had a silent brain, and I think that’s a sticking point for a lot of people when it comes to meditation. You can still have the benefits with a loud brain :)

My grandmother fully believed in sasquatch as a species, with subspecies in various environments. The ones where she grew up in the northeast were apparently larger, less hairy and more fat than the ones in the swamps where I grew up. To this day I still think she had just seen hunters, but she knew what she saw lol

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being a furry. But I am absolutely not one. My username refers to an episode of Deep Space Nine

I don’t understand the rest of your comment

I think they were talking about the controversial vaccines like the anthrax vaccine, which is one I received while in boot camp

I’d rather they eat me than starve. If I died tonight it would probably be a few weeks before anyone noticed

I think that you should talk to your doctor about your concerns. My doctor prescribed a UVB light that I use for a short period every day and it seems to be helping quite a lot with my muscle pain and vitamin D levels

Does this amplify the things spoken to you or just audio you are listening to? I have a broader sensory processing disorder, and I’ve really become picky about the types of situations I’ll go into because it takes such a huge toll. I think it would probably be easier to live with if I didn’t have to concentrate so hard on separating conversations from ambient noise

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Wow, sexist, racist and Islamophobic all at once.

There are several women just in this thread telling you that being objectified while trying to compete in a sport is a problem. No one is saying that people can’t dress sexy when they want to, we’re saying it’s a problem when it’s forced on us and expected of us to comply

There are downsides. Not all women are beautiful, and quite a lot of us lose our beauty as we age. I can tell you first hand that aging has resulted in a significant change in how people treat me, and that alone is enough to cause social anxiety

Also, the expectation that we be beautiful or maintain our figures is oppressive as fuck. Think about how hard life is just trying to work and pay bills, then add the time and financial cost for beauty routines and gym. Some people get around that by making those two things their hobbies, but that isn’t gong to work for most people

I hate celery but love cilantro.

Weirdly, after I had covid cilantro tasted like perfume and I couldn’t stand it. I was very worried that it would forever be a ruined flavor, because it does definitely overpower food. Thankfully it’s gone back to normal lol

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I should add more x’s to my name lol

Assuming Lemmy is still around by then, the front page will have a cat on it.

I agree with the others to have a bunch of hobbies to pick from. For the record I have been on stims daily, but now I use a non-stim with an occasional boost from a mild stim.

• I like gaming because there is always a new game to try.
• I like sewing because I often need to repair something and occasionally I think of something that I can’t buy in a store.
• I like gardening because I like cooking, and it’s fun to have fresh ingredients that I grew myself.
• Some people like learning an instrument because there are always new songs and styles to try

Ultimately, what my ADHD brain craves is novelty, and I can only really get that from a variety in my activities.

I think you mean Jainism? It isn’t Hindu.

They also have a very strict vegetarian diet, they won’t even eat root vegetables so burrowing insects aren’t disturbes

I was just making a joke :)

Tylenol does not cause autism. Given how often people with autism experience RSD it is funny to think that an imagined cause of autism could also be a treatment for one of its symptoms

The commenter that you replied to was expressing despair at how difficult their life is because they have AuDHD. They are not saying that Tylenol can turn off their brain, they are instead asking for recommendations to escape their misery.

You could try understanding the comment chain and comments before saying something that sounds cruel like:

“Are you a nice, forgiving person? It works for good people only”.

Many neurodivergent people grow up abused by their parents because of their needs, and struggle with feeling like they are not good, not good enough, and not worthy of love. Saying what you did, unprovoked, to a ND person can send someone into a self-hatred spiral that is wholly unnecessary and has nothing to do with what they actually said.

RSD is not limited to people with autism or ADHD. It’s just very common among neurodivergent folks

Edit: When I made this comment the person above was being unfairly down voted. What they said has scientific merit and the reader can easily verify.

I’m on clonidine for ADHD. I can actually stop myself from speaking out of turn now, so maybe it has been a little sedating xD

Dating is kind of a nightmare. I know people say anyone can find a partner, but that doesn’t take into account things like sensory issues or hard boundaries around other things that keep us sane. I told myself a few years ago that I didn’t want to date while I’m university, but honestly it’s been so nice not forcing myself to fit into other people’s boxes that I might just stay single even after I earn my doctorate

I’m also with you on refusing to participate in a misery machine for a living. I hope you can hash out some kind of misery escape plan with your therapist tomorrow

My physical therapists love to say “motion is lotion”, moving is what keeps our joints moving smoothly