Hello I am new, confused and excited about Lemmy! I like the vibes.

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Cake day: June 15th, 2023

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  • So wait, you guys sleep in separate rooms but you still need to go to bed at the same time? And you can’t even wash the dishes becuase it’s too loud? At 9:30pm at night? This is just not acceptable. So one change in your working hours to a later time would implode everything? Your man needs a white noise machine, or ear plugs. If he can’t sleep through another person doing the dishes in another room, that’s a him problem.

    I have lots of Autistic and ADHD friends. Yes, we can be loud without meaning to, but I doubt even my noises ADHD friend would stop me from being able to sleep by hand washing the dishes. Whatever you do, whatever happens NEVER EVER NEVER have a child with this man. He will implode and you will be charged with the horrible crime of having the baby make noise at night when he is SleEpInG. How you to have a dog is beyond me. Does she never make noise at night?















  • I don’t have a lot of advice on how to identify triggers, it’s a crap shoot, but here is what I do about them when I feel overwhelm coming on.

    One: Belly breathing. This is beyond a doubt the greatest skill I learned in therapy. Plenty of tutorials online for it and few different versions.

    Two: Imagine a dial on your stomach with the numbers 1-10. 10 being meltdown and 1 being completely calm. Picture yourself slowly turning down the dial while taking deep breaths.

    Three: I started carrying a small fidget toy in my pocket that I can play with when I feel like I want to rip off my skin and run screaming out of the biulding.

    Hope this helps!