I’m not even trying to; I’m just categorically disagreeing with you, which you don’t like. Remember, you replied to me to disagree, because you most likely didn’t like my position to begin with. I’m clarifying my position and why I don’t agree, since you replied to me. But yes, thank you. You too.

Same to you!

I deeply disagree with you as a transman myself. My core never changed after transition… I was still me regardless of how people saw me before, during and after (took 15 years). I was just getting treatment (a cure of sorts). My medical conditions (or disabilities) don’t define my personality or who I am as a person. That’s absolute nonsense.

I was diagnosed at 24, it’s just a disability. It’s not part of who I am at my core. Developing coping mechanisms to deal with the disability isn’t part of me, it’s necessity.

I disagree with that way of thinking, it really isn’t sane to me. ADHD isn’t “part of who I am”, just like my myopia isn’t either. It’s not part of my personality, it’s just a disability I inherited. I can cure my myopia with laser eye surgery and when I get enough money to, I absolutely will and if there’s a cure for ADHD, I absolutely will cure it the same way I will my myopia. Disabilities aren’t my personality. Curing them won’t change who I am as a person (my brother and mother got laser eye surgery for their severe myopia… their personalities didn’t change, btw). That way of thinking is so damn reductive to me.

Yeah, this is why I have a physical calendar with stickers that I can place for tasks (they are called family calendars and have extra space to place pictograms and notes on each day of the months) and an app that notifies me of tasks to do at the same time (for any ADHD havers here, the app is called Habitica, it’s the best app I’ve found for ADHD, try it out; it really helps).

If I blend one out completely that day, the other reminds me non-stop on my phone (post-its were not helping at all on their own and weren’t precise enough compared to a family calendar). It helps with getting more tasks done than if I didn’t use those tools at all (I am medicated, but I still struggle with not doing tasks when my motivation is very low, you all know how it is).

I’ve seen this mentality way too much on Reddit subs. Often by the same people that say they are just “neurospicy” and that ADHD is quirky and makes up their entire identity. God that shit is cringe.

Even saw someone recently ask people if they would cure their ADHD if scientists came up with a cure. 90% of the responses were by sane people saying, “WTF question is that? Yes, I would cure it, it’s a disability!” and the op was just replying to them that ADHD was the reason they were creative and was their identity… Bro… Sometimes, I feel like some of these people aren’t even real.

Maybe I’m the odd one out, but I need some form of background noise to concentrate on anything. Whether that be music or someone endlessly yapping with a monotone voice in a video. Just anything that drowns out my endless stream of thoughts that have 0 to do with my task.