So much self-monitoring is exhausting. Worse because I think I genuinely go overboard if I don’t monitor.
I’m lucky that I’ve made friends where we literally send essays to each other and don’t even have any expectations of a time limit for answering. I probably achieved this by “being annoying” and the friends (who also happen to be autistic for the most part), self-selected.
Well, true. But in the end, we’re a social species after all. There might be a huge range of level of desire to, but it’s probably always above an absolute zero.
If the social circle is an amount of persons to the count of 1, it still is a cirlcle. Called a point.
But that soooooooooooooooooooooooo much depends on the kind of people, so it’s probably converging to zero.
Oh yeah. I remember being 18 and having literally no one, no way of having anyone, and wanting to die.
My best friend (and only close friend) died in a car accident when I was 16.
I nearly went insane. I remember after going 8 months talking to no one (when the locals thought they had hung around and comforted me enough) bawling my eyes out and begging the universe to let me meet at least one person I related to enough to have a 10 minute connection.
When I get overwhelmed with my little family and think, “I’d kill to be alone.” I think back to that time and try to be grateful for what I have.
My fiancé has me so mad I can’t see straight right now and I’m trying hard to remember that I’m so thankful for her and the kids. :p
It’s just a moment. She’ll at least like me tomorrow haha. Even if nothing I do is enough tonight.
I’m sorry to hear that, but I can relate (who can’t?). For an extrovert it’s simple, they meet with strangers and have a great day. For us intros it needs to be a meaningful connection to be noteworthy. Everything else is white noise.
Working in an office i felt more alone than being home alone for months. Weird he?
Also yes. Be grateful, if you love your wifey and kiddos and they love you too, you already won the life-lottery. Luckily i don’t have kids, so my wife never really brings me into the “I’d kill to be alone” - mood, but i know this feeling too well too.
So much self-monitoring is exhausting. Worse because I think I genuinely go overboard if I don’t monitor.
I’m lucky that I’ve made friends where we literally send essays to each other and don’t even have any expectations of a time limit for answering. I probably achieved this by “being annoying” and the friends (who also happen to be autistic for the most part), self-selected.
This is the way! Stopping the fight to fit in, but changing the social circle until it fits you 😊
Or do like I’ve done. No social circle at all.
My customers and coworkers and our brief 3 minute interactions are all the social life I can handle.
Don’t do that if it makes you sad to be lonely though. I am at my happiest alone or at home with my family.
Well, true. But in the end, we’re a social species after all. There might be a huge range of level of desire to, but it’s probably always above an absolute zero. If the social circle is an amount of persons to the count of 1, it still is a cirlcle. Called a point. But that soooooooooooooooooooooooo much depends on the kind of people, so it’s probably converging to zero.
Oh yeah. I remember being 18 and having literally no one, no way of having anyone, and wanting to die.
My best friend (and only close friend) died in a car accident when I was 16.
I nearly went insane. I remember after going 8 months talking to no one (when the locals thought they had hung around and comforted me enough) bawling my eyes out and begging the universe to let me meet at least one person I related to enough to have a 10 minute connection.
When I get overwhelmed with my little family and think, “I’d kill to be alone.” I think back to that time and try to be grateful for what I have.
My fiancé has me so mad I can’t see straight right now and I’m trying hard to remember that I’m so thankful for her and the kids. :p
It’s just a moment. She’ll at least like me tomorrow haha. Even if nothing I do is enough tonight.
I’m sorry to hear that, but I can relate (who can’t?). For an extrovert it’s simple, they meet with strangers and have a great day. For us intros it needs to be a meaningful connection to be noteworthy. Everything else is white noise. Working in an office i felt more alone than being home alone for months. Weird he?
Also yes. Be grateful, if you love your wifey and kiddos and they love you too, you already won the life-lottery. Luckily i don’t have kids, so my wife never really brings me into the “I’d kill to be alone” - mood, but i know this feeling too well too.