Working remote has mostly solved this problem. The thing is, most people at work do not understand that working remote is what makes them palatable to me and me palatable to them. So they keep wondering why I do not want to go to the yearly company retreat. I think they are fine people to work with and probably even good people in general but I wish to be colleagues and only colleagues. I don’t want to share about my life outside of work and have little interest in theirs.