Does anyone have any experiences, frustrations or advice that they would like to share about maintaining long term relationships or starting over as someone with autism?
I‘m a millennial woman, and keeping people in my life has been a lifelong struggle. Today my spouse wants a divorce after 16 years of marriage. The reason stated is because of autism. I’m introverted, like to plan things, tend to lose focus and it’s like people just eventually get bored of you.
I have no family support, grew up in the foster system. I would lose my health insurance, home and everything in a divorce. Friends are through my spouse.
Feel free to PM me too if you are interested in talking. Could use a friend or maybe advice trying to start my life over somewhere else that I can get healthcare. I also happen to be learning German but open to talking with anyone.
It’s good to push on the boundary of your comfort-zone, expand your horizons, and sometimes even do things you wouldn’t normally want to but do anyways because they’re important to someone you care about…
But this doesn’t sound like that. This doesn’t sound like a healthy exertion and growth, but more like you being dragged around by an extrovert. You shouldn’t have to “keep up.”
There’s a good chance that your lifestyles are simply incompatible, and that that dimension is one they values highly… But it’s just really weird and unfortunate that it took 16 years to come to that conclusion. I mean, I guess there are married people who hate eachother their whole lives so I guess it’s not that abnormal… But damn that sucks.