Who does everyone else expect to cause the least problems for being upset? That person is the ‘problem’ when everyone else was going to ignore the actual cause of the problem.
It is absolutely ridiculous and doesn’t make any actual sense beyond conflict avoidance.
The spirit of the rules is nobody gets visibly upset!
Yes, that does change based on who is present and how much they care about what is happening.
Unless it’s us that are upset, then we are the problem, not whoever makes us upset. I’m yet to figure out what’s the difference.
Who does everyone else expect to cause the least problems for being upset? That person is the ‘problem’ when everyone else was going to ignore the actual cause of the problem.
It is absolutely ridiculous and doesn’t make any actual sense beyond conflict avoidance.
Exactly this, thank you for putting it into words so well.